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In general, babies gain about 1 ounce per day in the first four months, about 1 1/2 to 2 pounds per month. For the first month, a newborn will take a 2- to 3-ounce bottle, six to eight times per day. After the first month, increase feedings by 1 ounce per month until baby reaches 8 ounces per feeding.

More info about the first 100 days of your baby @ parenting.

Do you share your bed with your newborn?

“In October, the American Academy of Pediatrics released a policy advising against bed-sharing while stating that when parents sleep in the same room as a baby — but not in the same bed — the risk of sudden infant death syndrome can be cut by as much as 50 percent.”

For more check: chicagotribune

The cornerstones of what a bright, happy baby or toddler needs are Attention, Bonding and Communication.

Jill Stamm, Bright from the Start: The Simple, Science-Backed Way to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind from Birth to Age 3

John Medina’nin mukemmel kitabini bitirdim gecenlerde… Brain Rules for Baby her anne/baba adayinin ve hali hazirda cocuk sahibi butun ebeveyinlerin okumasi gereken pek gerekli bir kitap bence.

Brain Rules for Baby, ivira zivira bulasmadan ve gereksiz duygu somurusu yapmadan bebeklerin beyin gelisimini bilimsel kanitlar sunarak acikliyor… Hamilelikten baslayarak, cocugunuzun dunya uzerindeki ilk yillarindaki gelisimini ince ince isliyor Medina.

• Zeki olmak ne demek?
• Zeka cesitleri…
• Her beyin aslinda farkli duzenlenmistir…
• 2 yas oncesi televizyon
• Genler… Genler…
• Cocukta empatiyi gelistirmek
• Duygular ve mantik arasindaki iliski
• Mutlulugun sirlari
• Hangi yetistirme tarzini kullanmali?
• Cocukta ahlaki duygulari gelistirmek
• ve cocuk yetistirme konusunda (ozellile ilk yillar icin) daha bir cok pratik nokta

Yukaridaki konu basliklari Medina’nin kitabinin bir ozeti… Ama asil ozeti Medina zaten internete koymus.. Bana da paylasmak dustu.

Siz bu notlara goz gezdire durun, begenirseniz bir de kitabi alin okuyun; ama bir firsatiniz oludugunda da www.brainrules.net‘i ziyaret etmeyi de ihmal etmeyin…

brain rules for baby
how to raise a smart and happy child
from zero to five
by John Medina
chapter summaries

Chapter 2 ~ Pregnancy
“What can my baby learn while she is still in my womb?”
This chapter is going to save you a lot of money. You don’t need to buy any fancy equipment to aid a baby’s brain development in utero. You just need a rocking chair and a quiet, comfortable place to relax. Indeed, one factor in a child’s temperament and IQ is how stressed the mother felt while pregnant. Guys, listen up: Pregnant women should be treated like queens. It’s hard for parents not to want to do something right away to give their baby’s brain every advantage. But babies, it turns out, mostly want to be left alone in the earliest stages of pregnancy. That’s when their brains are creating an
astonishing 8,000 neurons per second. You’d want peace and quiet, too. That all begins to change in the second half of pregnancy, as the senses come online. Here, a baby’s brain begins wiring thousands of connections together—a job that’s not finished for another couple of decades. From touch to sight to sound, a baby has an incredibly active mental life in the womb. But only four things have been proven to aid it.

Chapter 3 ~ Relationship
“What’s going to happen to my marriage after we bring our baby home?” More than 80 percent of marriages suffer when baby comes home, with increasingly hostile interactions causing marital satisfaction to plummet. That’s a surprise to many rookie parents, perhaps because it’s rarely discussed. You know things will change, but not how very much. There are four chief culprits, and if you know about them in advance, you can prepare for the storm—preserving not only your relationship but your child’s nervous system. Children are highly attuned to whether their environment is
safe; even infants younger than 6 months can detect and respond to hostility between parents. But if you develop an “empathy reflex” with your spouse, your marriage is nearly divorce-proof. I’ll talk about how to do it.

Chapters 4 & 5 ~ Smart baby
“How do I get my kid into Harvard?”
By “smart,” most parents mean they want their kids to do well in school. But true intelligence looks different in every kid. And it is composed of important factors not measured by the pencil and paper of an IQ test. I think it’s time to redefine what we mean by “smart.” The ingredients I propose include self-control, inquisitiveness, creativity, and verbal and nonverbal communication. All of these are, to some extent, controlled by genetics. (The DNA you give your kids controls about 50 percent of their intellectual horsepower.) And many of them are characteristics common among the country’s most successful entrepreneurs. But great accomplishments often take effort more than smarts. There’s a way to encourage such intellectual elbow grease. Praise your child’s effort (“I’m proud of you. You really worked hard on that”) rather than innate ability (“You’re so smart!”). What doesn’t work? Hyper-parenting, for one. Viewing a child’s development like a competitive race creates the kind of stress that actually damages the brain. TV before age 2 doesn’t work, either. Every hour of TV creates a greater likelihood of attention problems and bullying once your child starts school. One of the best things you can dofor your baby’s brain power is devote lots of time to playing, in a certain way.
Surprisingly, it builds that self-control we just mentioned.

Chapters 6 & 7 ~ Happy baby
“How can I make sure my little one is going to be happy?”
Every baby is born with a temperament, and you’ll be able to see it in your baby’s first few minutes of life. In fact, babies may be born with a happiness thermostat. Your chances of getting an anxious baby are 1 in 5. If you get one, take heart. Anxious babies tend to comply with parental wishes more frequently, even if they’re fighting every step of the way. What else do we know about happiness? After decades of research burning through millions of dollars, studies have uncovered two shocking facts: a) money, above poverty levels, does not equate to happiness and b) having lots of friends does. We are
most likely to maintain deep, long-term relationships with people who are nice. In the brain-science world, that means emotionally stable. We’ll look at the ingredients of such stability. As with intelligence, nature accounts for about 50 percent here, and nurture the rest.
Research has uncovered four distinct parenting styles. Only one parenting style produces the happiest, most emotionally stable children. Which category you fall into depends on your comfort level with emotions, especially your own. (You’ll need to get comfortable real fast.) How you deal with your child’s emotions—the intense,
inappropriate ones—fundamentally affects your child’s happiness. Actually, it affects everything from their self-calming ability to rates of violence to parental loyalty to infectious diseases. One trick: teaching your child to label emotions. It helps connect the nonverbal and verbal pathways in the brain. Another is empathizing, which calms the nervous system. Imagine you’re in line at the post office, and your daughter wants a drink of water. Her request is soon a whine, threatening to escalate into a tantrum. What should you say? We’ll walk through plenty of examples.

Chapter 8 ~ Moral baby
“How do I raise a morally aware child?”
Babies are born with moral sensibilities. These are remarkably similar around the world. Evolutionary anthropologists think that’s because having rules of social conduct allowed our ancestors to work in teams, necessary for outsmarting stronger predators. Still, kids don’t just do the right thing. Your discipline helps shape your baby’s moral
sensibilities. Brain science has some things to say about discipline, and I can’t help but illustrate them with a few horrifying cases from recent nanny reality shows. In a recurring theme, we’ll talk about the importance of emotions and the role they play in moral (or any) decision-making. Indeed, the areas of the brain that process emotions and logic are so intertwined, one cannot happen without the other. I’ll reveal the simple phrase that helps your child internalize moral behavior. And no discussion of discipline would be complete without a study or two on spanking.

Gobek: 1

Bu haftasonu Giymeyi Planladigin Kiyafetler: 0        

Bu durum, halk arasinda “Hamileligin o “buyulu” dunyasinin, en sevdigin kiyafetlerine girememeye baslamanla dumanlanmasi”, olarak da bilinir.. Bu durum gecmez… Aksine buyuyerek aylar boyu devam eder. O kiyafetler torbalara yerlestirilir ve gobek insani boyutlara geri donene kadar gozun gormeyecegi bir yere koyulur… Bu ‘insani durumlara geri donus’ ne zaman olur, bilinmez. Hamilelikte boyle sorulara kafa yorarak gun gecmez…

Bebeklerin televizyonla iliskisi hakkindaki yazilardan/arastirmalardan artik hepimiz haberdariz sanirim. American Academy of Pediatrics bebeklerin, ozellikle hayatlarinin ilk iki yilinda, televizyonla iliskisinin minimalde tutulmasi yonunde son fetvasini gecenlerde yayinladi. Bu son aciklamada ilk iki sene cocuklarin televizyonla hic yaklastirilmamasi gerektigini bildirdi sevgili uzmanlarimiz… Peki ama neden?

The AAP looked to answer two important questions:

1. Do video and televised programs have any educational value for children under 2?
2. Is there any harm in children this age watching these programs?

The AAP council on Communications and Media found that

1. “Unstructured play time is more valuable for the developing brain than electronic media.”
2. “Young children with heavy media use are at risk for delays in language development once they start school” They also noted that screen time can effect sleep routines. Irregular sleep can have negative effects on learning and behavior.

Yani Amerikali pediyatristlerimiz kisaca su sorulara yanit aramislar:

• Iki yas altindaki cocuklara video ya da televizyonda izlettirilen programlarin herhangi bir egitici yani var mi?
• Ve, yine iki yas alti cocuklar bu programlari izlerlerse herhangi bir risk grubuna dahil oluyorlar mi?

Bu sorulara su cevaplari bulmus sevgili uzmanlarimiz:

• Tasarlanmadan, belirli bir plana bagli kalinmadan, cocuklara sunulan oyun zamani (serbest oyun zamani), cocuklarin elektronik medya onunde gecirecekleri zamana nazaran cocuk gelisimi icin cok daha yararli.
• Gorsel medyayla cok zaman geciren cocuklarin okula baslamalarini takiben dil gelisimlerinde, bu kategoriye dusmeyen cocuklarla kiyaslandiginda, bir gerileme gozlenmekte. Ve yine, gorsel medyayla cok zaman geciren cocuklarda uyku duzeni bozukluklarina cok daha fazla rastlanmakta. Bu durum da yine cocuklarin ogrenme kapasitelerini ve gelismelerini negatif etkilemekte…

O halde Seinfeld’ten de alinti yapmak gerekirse: No TV for you Kiddo!

Bu ne demek? Bu su demek sevgili, fedakar Turk annesi: cocugu TV onune koyup, eline iPad’ini verip telefonda saatler gecirmek, bu arada isini gucunu halletmek maalesef YOK. Eger ki cocuklarimizi yasamlarinin ilk donemlerinde TV’nin ve teknolojinin negatif etkilerinden korumak istiyorsak, cocukla ciddi ciddi zaman gecirmek gerekli.

Bu durumda, bilgili, sorumlu, anlayisli Turk annesi cocuklarini kendi baslarina oynamalari icin tesvik edecek; ama bir yandan da minik yavrularini uzaktan gozlemeye devam edecektir. Ya da fedakar annemiz “haydi beraber birseyler yapalim” felsefesine uyacak ve minik sipalariyla yerlerde yuvarlanmanin, orayi burayi boyamanin, kupleri ust uste dizmenin hakli gururunu yasayacaktir.

Guclu ve sorumluluk sahibi Turk annesi televizyonun renkli dunyasina boyun egmeyecek ve cocuklarini bu teknolojik devirde de olsa en dogal yollarla buyutmenin yollarini elbet bulacaktir. Herkes bilir ki Turk annesi hicbir seye, hele ki teknolojiye, asla yenik dusmez.

Hamilelik boyunca gerek hamile yoldaslarinizla konusmalariniz esnasinda olsun, gerek yoga derslerinin baslangic sohbetlerinde olsun en cok dinleyeceginiz dertlerden biri ‘hamilelikte uyku problemleri’ olabilir. Aylar gecip de sevgili gobek ve sevgili bebek buyume yolunda emin adimlarla ilerledikce, anne adayinin uyku sorunlari da hallicesinden bas gostermeye baslar..

Hamilelikte, yan yatar pozisyon (sleep on side, aka SOS) American Pregnancy Association ve cogunluk doktor tarafindan en saglikli uyku pozisyonu olarak goruluyor… Hele bir de yan yatmakla kalmayip, sol taraf uzerine yatarsa hamile kisi, iste o zaman, ancak gorevini yerine getirmis bir kisinin duyabilecegi mutlulukla, uykunun sicak kollarina birakabilir kendini… mi… acaba?? Teoride hersey harika gozukse de pratikte islemeyen noktalar cok…

Neden yan yatar pozisyon? Neden sol taraf?

Sol tarafa yatik yatmak plasentaya ulasacak kan ve faydali besinleri maximize ediyor; bu da sevgili bebegin cok daha saglikli beslenmesini sagliyor… Yana yatip, dizleri ve bacaklari bukup, bir de iki bacak arasina bir yastik koyuldu mu degmeyin bebegin keyfine!

Tamam da, senelerdir sirt ustu, yuz ustu yatmis biri nasil bir anda sol tarafina donuk yatacak simdi?

Eh… Kolay degil.. ‘Cennet annelerin ayaklari altindadir’ diye bosuna dememisler.. Saf ve temiz kalpli anne adayi, yasam tarzini bebegin dogumuyla beraber degistirecegini dusune dursun, gercekler orda burada okunan makalelerle anne adayimizin yuzune bir tokat gibi carpar..

Hamilelik boyunca sirt ustu yatmak sirt agrilarina, solunum ve sindirimle ilgili sorunlara, basura (haemorrhoids), dusuk tansiyona yol acabilecegi gibi; bir de ustune bebege ulasacak kan ve besinin miktarini da negatif olarak etkileyebilir. Yuz ustu yatmak zaten -ozellikle hamileligin ileri donemlerinde- buyuyen gobek sayesinde zor olacaktir yeni anne adayi icin.

Tabii ki tum aksam boyu bir tarafa donuk yatmak ve yattigin pozisyonda uyanmak pek insana ozgu degil. Insaniz kimildiyoruz :) Anne adayinin gecenin bir koru uyanip da ‘oy yine sirt ustu donmusum’ panigine kapilmasi… efendim ‘ben horul horul uyurken bebege yeteri kadar yemek gitti mi yaw son 3 saattir’ sorusunu sormasi… koruyucu durtuyle esini gecenin bir vakti uyandirip ‘sanirim ben bebege zarar veriyorum, hazir degilim anne olmaya’ krizine girmesi gayet normaldir ve esler tarafindan delilik olarak gorulmemelidir. Boyle durumlarda anne adayi sunu hatirlamalidir: eger ki vucudumuz -uyku esnasinda bile olsa- rahatsizsa… eger ki bebek bir sekilde rahatsizsa… vucudumuz bize bu rahatsizligi bir sekilde belli edecek ve sukunetle bizi zaten uyandiracaktir. Hicbir bebek de annesi birkac saat sirt ustu uyudu diye geri donulemez bir yola girecek degildir. Sukuneti korumak anneligin ozunden gelir. Sukunetimizi, sakinligimizi koruyalim…

Giderayak bir iki faydali notla bitirmek isterim bu yaziyi:

• Eger gece sirt agrisindan sikayetciyseniz, yan yatmak gercekten ilac gibi gelebilir. Bacak arasina koyulacak yastiga arkadas olarak bir de karin altini yastikla beslemek sirta binecek yuku hallice hafifletecektir.

• Eger geceleri mide eksimesi (heartburn) ile uyaniyorsaniz, biraz daha yuksek yastikta yatmayi deneyebilir, basinizin altina birden fazla yastik koyabilirsiniz.